FEELING OVERWHELMED !!

Four things you can do when you feeling overwhelmed....

·         Stop what you’re doing

·         Make yourself a warm drink; hot Chocolate, Chamomile tea etc.

·         Watch a comedy  film

·         Go for a walk or run in the park

Entry 2 PROCRASTINATION

Wow! its taken me 7 months to get my self together and add my second entry on ...procrastination. Because I was so busy procrastinating, I work better when is getting colder ...I kind of go into hibernating mode. The summer months are to distracting.... the Olympics was on so I had to support my team.

However the Olympics for me was a good example of how not to procrastinate. The successes, beating  personal bests in for time, world records achieved, over coming disability and taking part in the Olympics.

These all for me makes me realise that self pity should not be an excuse for procrastination. The Paralympics having thoughts like;''I want to do that but...... '', is not an option.  So.......

2. Face your fear.

 

“Procrastination is the fear of success. People procrastinate because they are afraid of the success that they know will result if they move ahead now. Because success is heavy, carries a responsibility with it, it is much easier to procrastinate and live on the “someday I’ll” philosophy.”Denis Waitley

 

 

As long as what you fear is not life threating have a go at it. so you dont join the 'Would have done that, Should have club'.  To live is to grow. Growth in age, in matority of actions, in reponsibolity,in expetiancesa. and failures. Failures comes with experiances at least your doing something.

 

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ENTRY 1: Overcoming Procrastination

Introduction

There are many ways to put up road blocks to success in life, one common way is procrastination. Procrastinators incapacitate themselves. They put obstacles in their own path. They actually choose paths that hurt their performance.

What is Procrastination?

Procrastination is the habit of delaying or avoiding doing tasks that need to be done. As a consequense procrastination can lead to missed opportunities, insomnia, damaged relationships, unproductive teamwork, and last minute long working hours, feelings of being overwhelmed, guilt, inadequacy, stress depression, resentment and self-doubt.  Procrastination can have painful after effects and can delay academic and personal success of individuals.

Despite the underlying cause of procrastination the good news is that there are positive ways of over it coming such as:

1. Just take the first step.

Looking too far into the future can make tasks or projects can seem close to impossible. As a result people often shut down because they feel overwhelmed.  It is good to plan for the future but then to swing focus back to today and the present moment.

“You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”
Martin Luther King, Jr.

With the future in mind, focus on taking the first step today ...and focus on this, nothing else! Taking the first step changes your mental state from ‘reluctant’ to “yes, I can do this”. You put yourself in state where you become more positive and although you may not be enthusiastic about taking the next step after this first one....you are moving forward towards taking the next step.... and the next one after that.

To see the whole staircase at once is not always relevant as it will shift and reveal itself along the way. This is evidence in life since best of plans can fall apart as you start to put it into action.... and discover that your map to your future destination may need to be altered to adjust to reality.

THE FEAR OF MAKING MISTAKES

It is often said that peoples greatest enemy is fear… the fear of inadequacy and the fear of rejection may be some of the reasons why. However, fear is a thought in the mind, which means that people who are fearful are actually afraid of their own thoughts.

For me, when I start worrying about the prospect of failure, it is really me not wanting to seem a failure to the people I am close to/look up to.

Failure that no one is aware of can seem much easier to deal with. This is probably true for most of us; to buckle and fall flat on your face with no witness is much easier to deal with than a crowd of spectators witnessing your fall.

When we start worrying about other people’s judgments, of our failure; suddenly a blunder seems less like a bad judgment but more like an exposure of how inadequate we are.

The fear of being judged can stop us branching out to explore new opportunities. If we can just accept that our mistakes don’t define us, they can help us gain a greater sense of meaning and connection with people.

It becomes easier to help and understand people who have experienced the same failures in life that you have. You are now able to give authentic help and support them, since you have been there before. You become genuine, humble and more able to forgive.

It is true to say that there are some mistakes we have made in the past.  If we had a chance to re live that time again, we would definitely avoid doing the mistake. The past has gone, but what we can do is make choices based on our past experiences and knowledge that we have now.

The best way to live, I feel is do the things we want to do irrespective of what people may say or see. Doing this consequently may risk being seen as inadequate and yes people might form an opinion of you. But better to live than live a life full of regrets …. I wish I had ……I would have…..I should have… I could have….

We only have one life, take a chance, breath and live!!!

ENTRY 4: KEYS TO FINDING YOUR PURPOSE

The Fourth Step.....................

Now look at your Passions, Action, and Gift list and spend at least 15 minutes each day doing at least one thing from one of the lists.

 You might begin to feel apprehensive about doing things differently to your normal way of doing things. Change can feel uncomfortable but this is a normal feeling as you step out of your comfort zone. Stepping out of your comfort zone, may also cause you to be afraid. But don’t stop, just keep breathing and use the energy generated by the fear to help you take the next step!  

It’s important to note that when you are in your purpose you should feel, alive, happy, excited and energized. If you are feeling low then reflect on your list, be honest with yourself may be there is something you forgot to write down or do something from the list you may be avoiding.

ENTRY 3: KEYS TO FINDING YOUR PURPOSE...

The Third Step..............

Spend a few minutes to write down things you can do effortlessly.

If you’re stuck for things to write you may want to its get some feedback from people close to you such as family and friends who usually will be able to see things about you that you are not able to see in yourself.

These feedbacks may make you  realise that you have a natural talent for organising, or you are creative in the way you colour coordinate and present the outfits that you wear or have a calming voice that makes  people feel at ease, have a wonderful sense of humour or people always feel listened to when they speak to you etc... 

These are your gifts; they come easy and naturally without having to spend hours of time in study. Some people are gifted in Sewing, Art, Maths or Music. But giftings don't have to be conventional. For instance you can be a gifted teacher, gifted listener, gifted cook or even be gifted in making people laugh.

 

You are meant to use these gifts to serve your Life Purpose!

ENTRY 2: KEYS TO FINDING YOUR PURPOSE

The Second step to finding your purpose..........

Write down a list of names of people that you respect and look up to. Next to the names write why you feel that way about them. For example, you might admire Nelson Mandela for standing up for what is right and being prepared to sacrifice his  youth for a cause he believed in .

These role models don't actually have to be some one famous but can someone who you have  know personally or have been acquainted with. These people have qualities that you truly admire.They could be past teacher, a neighbour a friend, a family member an activist etc. The real reason you are attracted to these qualities are because you aspire to be more like them, These aspirations are part of your purpose. Make it your to mission in life to always move to becoming, to improving, so you too can be looked up to by your community, the youth, your neighbours etc 

In order to become these qualities you admire in your role model there are steps you must take these are known as your Actions!